G’day Katharine and thanks for that return. Mindful of Ken Anderson’s excellent 2017 book, ‘Fantasyland’, I’ll risk submitting that we are essentially what we believe we are and therefore there’s absolutely nothing ‘wrong’ with feeling that we’re all still ‘hotties’ and ‘hunks’, LoL, despite the ineffable encroachments of time and wear & tear! Again, the key to full exploration/enjoyment of our own sexuality lies to a great extent in having a great relationship with someone within which to fully plumb the possibilities of a full and sensually varied life! [I’ll take a look at the Pendragon comment (no relation to Arthur Pendragon, I surmise? ;)))!]